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How Revisiting Ideas Leads to Insights

How Revisiting Ideas Leads to Insights

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We are all familiar with the phrase, “lightbulb moment.” This commonly used saying is often associated with having a sudden and brilliant idea. But in reality, it is nearly impossible to have your best idea the first time you think about something. The most likely way to uncover important insights is to frequently revisit a problem. The longer you’re in the game, the more ideas bubble up to the surface. Time unlocks insights.

When looking for a solution or trying to come up with an idea, it’s easy to become fixated on getting that lightbulb moment as soon as possible. However, this often leads to tunnel vision and prevents us from seeing other possibilities and solutions that could be better than our initial thought. When we revisit an idea or problem, we are able to look at it from different angles and view it from multiple perspectives. This allows for new ideas and solutions that can be more creative and interesting than those thought of initially. 

It also helps us realize how much we have grown in our knowledge and understanding since first starting on our project or journey towards finding a solution – because time has passed! So while revisiting may seem like a waste of time at first glance, it can actually help us make better decisions by providing clarity and direction on where we should focus our energy when pursuing our goals. 

It’s important to remember that taking your time does not necessarily mean taking forever! It simply means allowing yourself enough space and time for your ideas to develop so you can reach your fullest potential as an innovator or creator. Taking your time also allows for experimentation with different approaches and techniques which can help you discover even more options than originally imagined. Additionally, taking your time lets you take breaks when needed which will help clear your headspace so you can come back with fresh eyes and renewed energy towards completing the task at hand -without sacrificing quality!  

Allowing yourself extra time for revisiting ideas is not only beneficial but necessary in order for true creativity and innovation to occur! By taking breaks when needed, experimenting with different approaches, and viewing things from various perspectives, you will be able unlock powerful insights that will push both yourself as well as projects forward in amazing ways! So whenever possible don’t rush through tasks but take the necessary amount of time needed; this will ultimately result in higher quality work (and happier clients) all around!


P. S. Merry Christmas!

You’re Not Getting Worse, You’re Getting Better

You’re Not Getting Worse, You’re Getting Better

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I’m an adult now, which means it’s now (and every season of my life from this point onwards) adulting season *jazz hands*

And my first order of business for that is (obviously) learning how to drive.

So when the first day I started driving, I thought, ‘Okay, maybe I’m not that bad?’

But the second day, huh, I knew the reality. I was no F1 racer.

But the truth is I got no worse the second day than the first.

It’s that I had progressed through the first stage of incompetence to the second. 

What are the stages of incompetence you’d ask? Well, that’s exactly what I’m here for.

They’re a useful way of looking at your skills on a spectrum.

As per Google, “In psychology, the four stages of competence, or the “conscious competence” learning model, relates to the psychological states involved in the process of progressing from incompetence to competence in a skill.”

  1. Unconscious incompetence – At this stage, you do not realise what skill you’re missing. You’re neither aware of the skill’s usefulness, nor your incompetency at it. You don’t know what you don’t know. Ignorance is bliss.
  2. Conscious incompetence – This is the stage where you actually realise, damn I’m missing something. You don’t have the skills yet, yet you realise what you need to get there. You can see all of the places where you need to work and improve. Knowledge is pain.
  3. Conscious competence – You know, but you need to think. You have the skill now, but you still need to think about it in order to do it well. You’ve improved to the point where all of the pieces work well together, but you still need to concentrate to make it all smooth. Mindfulness is key.
  4. Unconscious competence – You forget how much you know. The skill is so solid and practiced that it feels natural to you now.  You don’t even notice anymore all of the different pieces that make up the skill because they all work together so well that it feels like one action. There is no thought, only do. It’s the stage our teachers and experts are in. They start to think this is just common knowledge.

So the next time you’re trying to learn a skill and you feel like you’re getting worse at it, realise that you’re actually getting better at it. That you’re making your way through the different stages of competence.

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Negative Emotions Are Just Warnings In Disguise

Negative Emotions Are Just Warnings In Disguise

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How has your week been?

Even though this week was just as long as any other week – 7 days – it felt longer for me. More mentally exhausting and challenging.

But there were bright sides here too. And one of them was an instagram post I came across (I didn’t save it and now I can’t find it anymore :/ ). 

It talked about how negative emotions aren’t all that negative. They’re actually just call to action. Like a warning that something is wrong and it needs to be fixed.

Just saying that negative emotions are warnings sounds a little vague, don’t you think? A warning for what?

To understand that let us first understand the main categories of negative emotions:

  1. Uncomfortable – Impatient, uneasy, distressed, mildly embarrassed.
  2. Fear – Concern, apprehension, scared, terrified.
  3. Hurt –  Sense of loss.
  4. Anger – mildly irritated, resentful, livid, rage.
  5. Frustration – held back or hindered in the pursuit of something.
  6. Disappointment – sad, defeated.
  7. Guilt – emotions or regret.
  8. Inadequacy – less than or unworthy.
  9. Overloaded – overwhelmed, hopeless, or depressed.
  10. Loneliness – apart or separate from.


Now let us understand how these emotions translate into action signals, and what they actually tell us. Our aim is to either change our actions, or our perspective because things aren’t working out too well.


  1. Uncomfortable – When things don’t feel right, it’s a sign that something needs to be done. Pause and think about what you really want, then take steps towards making it happen.
  2. Fear – Fear is like a warning bell, telling you to get ready. It’s your cue to brace yourself and prepare for the unknown. If circumstances are out of your control, then it might be best just to accept them and let go of any negative feelings associated with fear. There’s no point in holding onto something that harms you.
  3. Hurt – Hurt can be a sign that you’re expecting something to happen, but it isn’t. Before reacting too quickly, try evaluating if there really is a loss and consider how your perception or communication of needs might need adjusting- sometimes changing these things can lead to different outcomes.
  4. Anger – Anger can often be a sign that somebody has crossed an important boundary or violated your personal values. It is essential to gain clarity on our rules and expectations, so we don’t have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others which result in constant frustration and anger. Acknowledging the difference between different peoples’ sets of standards may also help us avoid feeling resentful throughout life.
  5. Frustration – If you’re feeling stuck in the same cycle, take a step back and reassess. Rather than getting more of the same results by continuing with your current approach, shake things up and try something new to reach your target.
  6. Disappointment – Life is constantly throwing curveballs, and this could be a sign that the end result you had been hoping for might not come to fruition. Take some time to step back and reassess your expectations; have you miscalculated somewhere along the way? Perhaps setting more reasonable goals in terms of timeline would help prevent disappointment down the line.
  7. Guilt – Feelings of guilt arise when we recognize that something isn’t up to par with our own standards. But rather than becoming consumed by this emotion, it’s important to acknowledge and address the root cause in order to move forward. When a mistake can’t be reversed, practice self-compassion; reframe your perception and commit yourself towards better actions going forwards instead – creating healthier habits for both present & future growth.
  8. Inadequacy – It’s time for a change. Challenge yourself to take proactive steps towards improvement, such as practice. Remember that it is not about being perfect – simply put in the effort and let your results speak for themselves. The only way out of feeling of inadequacy is to take action.
  9. Overloaded – It’s time to reflect on what matters most right now, and figure out where your needs end and wants begin. Make a list of all of these details – start with the top priority one – then focus in on taking action. Every small step helps you take back control from events that may be beyond your grasp & simplifying it makes any task more achievable.
  10. Loneliness – Loneliness can often be a sign that we crave companionship. Taking the time to identify what kind of connection you’re looking for – whether it’s somebody with whom you can just have fun, someone who listens to your stories or something else entirely – and then learning how best to go about finding those meaningful relationships is key in creating lasting bonds.

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Traveling Back To The Past

Traveling Back To The Past

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If you’ve been here for quite some time now, you’d probably know I’m a bookworm.

While I don’t exclude any particular genre from my reading list, I kinda favor heartwarming fiction books.

One such book – Before the Coffee Gets Cold – was the latest book read. (To those who intend to read this book – while there’d be no spoilers, this post will mention the essence of the book, so proceed at )

It’s about a cafe that lets you travel back in time.

Sounds pretty cool and complicated, isn’t it?

Well, it’s not as cool, or complicated for that matter as it sounds.

While the cafe fulfills its promise of transporting you back in time, it has its own set of rules (there always are rules, aren’t there?).

For starters (pun intended), you have a time limit, and you can’t leave the cafe, or the chair you’re sitting on. But the most crucial of them all is the rule that says, no matter what you do in the past, you can’t change the present.

This rule defeats the entire purpose of time travel, don’t you think? What’s the point if you can’t change anything?

Well, there are two points actually, not just one.

First is that even though you can’t change the past or the present, there’s something that’s yet to happen – the future (did I really just give a definition of future?). Even if your present is at its absolute worst you can still make choices that promise you a better future. The future may seem like a far-off and distant concept, but it’s important to remember that the future is always unfolding. Even in the darkest of times, we have the power to shape our destiny and create a better tomorrow.

The second motive to go back to the past is to understand it. Revisiting our past in different circumstances makes us view the story from another perspective, hence giving us the option to change the narrative. It doesn’t change anything in the physical world in the present but it makes a change in your heart, and how you see others and that’s all that’s required. While a depressive episode seems like the worst part of your life, the future version of you is seeing it as a learning opportunity. Looking back on things allows us to see the bigger picture from a third-person point of view, which we couldn’t see earlier because at that time we were in the picture.

These two lessons, apart from the abundance of human emotion, made me fall in love with this book. This thing has made me feel after a long time. Not feel good, or feel bad, just not feel numb.

P. S. Would you go back in time even if you couldn’t change anything?

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Why You Need To Let Go

Why You Need To Let Go

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Anger is a natural emotion, but it’s important to deal with it in a healthy way.

We’ve all felt it – the heat rising to your face and neck, the knot in your stomach, or the tightness in your chest. Be it someone who’s wronged you, or a situation that’s out of your control, the feeling of anger is all too familiar.

Anger is a very real emotion that everyone experiences from time to time. But how we choose to act on our anger can have lasting consequences for both ourselves and those around us.

Holding onto anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to get sick

Everyone knows just how destructive anger and resentment can be. Once it takes hold, it can leave us feeling hurt, isolated, and unable to move on with our lives. But often the only thing anger brings is temporary relief and greater pain down the road. The truth is that holding onto anger isn’t really hurting the other person; it’s hurting you instead- like drinking poison and expecting someone else to get sick! A far healthier approach is to recognize that lingering bitterness will only hold you back, and take steps to let go of your negative feelings. Only then can you make progress toward forgiving the past, healing your wounds, and living your best life.

Forgiveness is not about condoning the other person’s behavior, it’s about freeing yourself from the pain they’ve caused you

Most of us have had the experience of being hurt by someone, and it can be a tricky situation. Lingering on this pain and anger is damaging to our individual well-being, as well as our relationships. This is where forgiveness comes in; it doesn’t necessarily involve condoning bad behavior or forgetting what happened, but rather allowing yourself to free yourself from the burden of being held by a negative past event. When forgiving somebody for a mistake or misdeed, focus not on how their behavior impacts you, but instead release those negative feelings and forgive them for your own benefit — this will not only give them an opportunity to make amends but also help heal any shared wounds. By letting go of these toxic emotions, we can open ourselves up to healthier relationships with those around us and allow ourselves to get back in touch with our true selves. It’s not a decision made lightly, and it takes courage to let go. So don’t think of forgiveness as a surrendering of justice, but instead as an act of love for yourself that strengthens your relationships and achieves peace of mind in the long run.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to be friends with the person who hurt you, but it does mean that you’re no longer allowing them to control your life

To forgive a person who has hurt you is to free yourself from the negative emotions and power that they have over you. It does not mean that the relationship between you must be the same, or that you must accept their actions; indeed, it might be sensible to stay away from them to maintain your own safety. Instead, forgiveness allows you to take back control of your life and emotions. You do not let their words and deeds affect how you chose to live day-to-day. External events are no longer in control of your internal well-being. Although forgiveness can take significant effort depending on the context, it is ultimately empowering: it liberates you from negative influences, releasing energy for living. To forgive does not necessarily involve reconciliation with those who harmed us, but it enables us to reclaim our lives in spite of them.

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