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The Road of Inaction

The Road of Inaction

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“Dishes! Dishes! Dishes! I’m tired of doing the dishes. I’m the only one doing them. And all you guys do is eat and leave the dishes for me to wash. And these glasses? They are the worst. Every time someone has to drink water, they take a new glass. Have you seen the number of glasses I have to wash at the end of the day? Can’t the three of you take a glass in the beginning of the day and drink water from that glass only the entire day?”, my mom fumed after coming from the kitchen

“But mumma the glasses get mixed up.” I told her, somewhat scared for my life.

“Then just label the damn things.”

And so we did.

My younger sister – like the sweet kid she is – made labels with every family member’s name on it, and “laminated” them covering them entirely with transparent tape.

Fast forward to a few hours. 

I was drinking water and looking at my designated glass and examining my label. The whole label was coated with tape, except a teeny little section at the left edge.

“Hey listen. You missed a little part here. Please tape it too na.” I said informing my sister.

“I’m not doing it now.”

“Fine.” And with that, I just let it be.

Even after withstanding a few tests of time, water and vim bar 🧼, I’m impressed that the labels managed to stay put without looking like they were holding onto the glass with all their might. However it wasn’t quite the same for that teeny little section. Too bad it was ripped off from his family at such a young age 😔

But it wasn’t his fault. To expect to be worn off is quite reasonable because it was the only part that wasn’t covered, isn’t it? Correct. When I leave the label just like that, without any protection, unlike the others, it is prone to the effects of soap and water.

Same goes for every other thing. When you work for something, it improves. And what happens when you don’t work on something? Common sense dictates it remains the way it is. Our mind equates work with progress, and no work with no progress. But it is not quite the situation. This is because the counterpart of progress is deterioration, and not no progress. What happens – when you don’t work on something – is that it starts to degrade. Even if you leave it as it is, it starts to go downhill. 

It is the nature’s law that when you don’t work on or towards something, it is going to perish.

Because nothing ever remains the same. Things either get better or they get worse. They go up or they go down. 

Consider anything that appears to be long-term. Take a car for example. If it is just sitting there, neglected in the parking lot and no one is cleaning it, or getting it serviced, it’s going to break down pretty soon. 

And just like the car, our lives will break down if we don’t take charge of them and don’t take any action.

Even to keep something the same, you need to work for it.

If you are not working on it, then something else is. And it is not gonna turn things in your favor.

The universe is always doing its work. To keep things your way, you first need to work enough to keep the universe’s activities in check.

Moral of the story – Take care of things, situations and conditions. Take hold of them. Protect them. Otherwise, they’re gonna wear off and you shouldn’t be surprised because you were the one who failed to take action in the first place.

As Benjamin Franklin once said, “By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.

Don’t Waste Your Lives

Don’t Waste Your Lives

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Who am I? 

What is life? 

Why am I here?

Do I have some purpose, and if yes then what is it?

The quest for the answer of these questions is indestructible, my friends. And I – possibly just like you – haven’t found the assured answers to these soul searching questions. But I hope that you stick around so that when I do find them, I can share them with you. 

Until then, I have a question for you. Are you here for eternity or is your time limited on this planet?

My answer would be that my time is limited to the course of my life. I have been granted with this gift of life, that may seem incredibly long, but is finite nevertheless. If it has a starting point, there’s got to be an ending point too.

I’m here to virtually grab you by your shoulders and yank you to an awareness, so that you can see what you are doing.

How many times have we paused, looked up and thought, “Why am I doing this? Do I like to do it? And if no, then why am I doing it?”, while doing our everyday actions. Most of us do the things we do because we’re told to do it and are continuing to do it mindlessly. 

Actually, it’s not your or anybody else’s fault. We are told, again and again, generations after generations, that we must get good education, go to college and get a good job, and then we’ll be successful. This is absolutely fine if this is what you want or it helps you in any way to get closer to what you want. But if this is not what you want, I don’t see any reason there is to do those things.

And I think one of the people who get that they’ve got one life and it’s too short to not do the things they like, is Nuseir Yassin or Nas Daily as we popularly know him. He is a video blogger who created 1,000 daily 1-minute videos on Facebook under the page, Nas Daily. This guy wears the same type of t-shirt everyday which marks the percentage of life he’s lived, according to the average lifespan. Why? Because it’s a reminder for him. It reminds him that he’s already done with nearly one-third of his life. And that motivates him to make the remaining two-third of his life, GREAT. He just looks at his t-shirt and if he likes what he’s seeing then he continues it, otherwise he just stops it.

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If you’re thinking, ‘why study then, if I gotta do what I wanna do?’, I’d say have a look at it. Is it really not helpful to you? Aren’t you learning even a single thing that’s going to help you?

Even if you answer both of the questions as a no, it’s okay. But remember we’re social animals and we live in a society where people are fortunately prioritising skills over degrees. But the bad news is, the majority of them aren’t. As yet.

Don’t blow up 45 minutes of your time on just randomly scrolling through your mobile phone. Or gossiping about someone you have nothing to do with. Haven’t we all got bigger, better things to do? The ones we’ve thought of. Those are the ones we should be doing, not being stuck in a hamster wheel and getting nowhere. We only have so much life to live. Provided we live our life and pause it every once in a while, and not start another grind just to build that life which doesn’t even allow us to soak in the good things.

Life is like a video game. But instead of three or five lives, we just have one. Don’t risk it fighting off all the wrong demons. 

And remember. We won’t get this again. Not the same thing. There won’t be a redo of this, no matter how hard we try.

P.S. I’m 21% done with my life, according to the average life expectancy in India. How much of your life have lived?

Living Like Coder

Living Like Coder

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“He’s super super smart. He’s a cheetah.”, dad tells us for maybe like the tenth time in the day, after talking to his new intern.

The entire WFH situation has given me some understanding of dad’s work and office, and by some I mean a lot. So much so, that my and my sister’s recent game is to guess who dad is talking to on the phone. It’s fun, give it a try.

My dad had hired a work-from-home intern during the pandemic. He’s smart and seemed nice until the time I got to know more about him from dad. Things started to go downhill after that. The problem was that he got even nicer! Exactly. 

Now you must be like hold up, what’s the problem then? The problem is that he is way too nice to be around my dad, or just any parent in general. What I mean is that he’s a college guy who is doing way beyond just good in his internship and is so passionate about music that he can play like at least 3 instruments competently. Also did I mention the fact that he’s a coder and absolutely loves coding? Possibly even a genius one for all I know. We’ll call him coder for simplicity and the obvious reason that he is one.

He’s damn sharp. There’s no denying that. Once my dad sent a clipping of a financial article in his office WhatsApp group for some client reference and Coder replied saying that there’s an error in this, the calculations don’t add up. And he sent the correction too. You see what I’m talking about here? 

Coder talks to my dad A.K.A. his boss about book recommendations and trying out new things like waking up at 5 in the morning, which is absolutely fine until dad tells me about it. Dad never compares me to him and I know that he never will. I even like listening to dad tell me about Coder’s intelligence until the time I start thinking about the level of achievement Coder is on, and why am I not on that level?

Honestly I am super amazed by his capabilities and I think he wasn’t the problem. My problem was me. My problem was that I wasn’t so fond of him openly (even if I low-key admire his attitude towards work) because I felt I wasn’t as good or even half as good as him

I think all of us have felt this at some point or the other in our lives. We think why can’t we be as good as him or her? Or maybe we’ve thought this person is so amazing, I wish I could be more like them. Isn’t it? And you know sometimes we even get mildly intolerant towards the other person even though they are doing nothing but their work, that too efficiently.

I did some pondering on this prevalent  human tendency to get bitter towards people who are doing better than us. And I thought all of us are pretty decent human beings and surely there must be a way to improve ourselves other than just sulking and getting envious of other people.

Guess what? There is indeed a solution.

Warning – It is quite different from what it may appear initially.

It is making comparisons. Yes, you heard it right, comparison. But it’s not comparing yourself (and lowering your self esteem in the process) to the other person. That has never done any good. 

It is comparing your current situation to your own ideal situation. A situation which shows how things should be. The ideal situation does not mean a far-sighted vision that you can achieve someday. Ideal situation is just how things ought to be in your present circumstances. And it is very individual. Even though you and I could be living in the same locality, studying the same subjects, in the same school, our ideal situations will be very different. It might as well be safe to assume that both the situations will be absolutely different.

The moment you figure out your ideal situation, you’ll start seeing the gaps. And once you figure out the gaps, then filling them up is no task honestly. The thing we struggle with is figuring what we lack, isn’t it? 

Take this image for example. Left one could be the current situation of your bedroom (no, I’m not attacking you personally, this just a hypothetical example). And keeping in mind the right image, or the ideal situation, you could conveniently fix up your room.

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Also note how the ideal situation is the visualisation of the best possible case of your current bedroom and not a vision of a lavish bedroom with a walk-in closet. There’s nothing wrong with having a vision like that, in fact one should have a vision to be able to reach there. But it is unrealistic, in ideal to your current situation. You can maybe achieve that vision by achieving and then upgrading your ideal situation a number of times.

Likewise, my ideal situation happened to be Coder’s current situation. With its help I can see what more I need to do. I can see that like him, if my superior, teachers in my case, has asked for some work, then I should submit it way before the deadline (which for the record I am floundering at right now). I know that when I’m asked to make one post, I should turn in four. 

Go ahead, imagine your highest self and then show up as them. When you think you’re not doing something right, or you feel like you should be doing something but you aren’t, then think. Think what would the ‘ideal you’ do. And just do that. It’ll be a piece of cake to figure out what’s wrong or missing.

So edge forward and be a better you!

The Truth About Time Management

The Truth About Time Management

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Furiously scribbling lines with sweaty palms, lines that barely even resemble the bar graph. Not even using a scale to draw lines, or switching to a pencil for the graph. Basically bypassing all the tactics for the “presentation” of the answer sheet. Stress building up. Still four 4-marker questions to be completed, rather even be attempted. The answer sheets are yet to be tied together. And damn. Not even 2 minutes are left for each of them. There just isn’t sufficient time. DARN IT!

Nerve-racking? Heck yes it is. This was me in my class 7 term 1 maths exam. Many would account this to not enough practice and poor time management. I agree with not enough practice. Poor time management, not so much. Because if you look at it, there isn’t any such thing as time management. Pretty unorthodox huh!

Time is constantly flowing no matter what you are doing or what you will do and when you will do it. It was, is and will continue to pass without giving a damn about how you use it. At the end of a day, both Elon Musk and Rahul Gandhi would have spent 24 hours, doesn’t matter what or how much of it they did.

With me till here? Shockers ahead 🤯😲 

What do you do in time management? According to Oxford dictionary, time management is the ability to use one’s time effectively or productively, especially at work. Essentially, you decide what things you will give your time to, in the order of priority.

But how do you manage time when it does not wait or pause for anyone and continues to pass without any consideration? The answer is – You don’t. You don’t manage time.

It is actually your energy that you are managing. What you are actually doing is deciding where to put your energy, in priority order. You are deciding where to focus your energy, because that is what is in your control and it is what will exhaust, say, at the end of a day. 

So it is crucially important for us to figure out how we utilise our energy, and at the same time, try and increase it. 

Let’s look at a scenario – There are 24 hours (the time) in a day, out of which we can work for 20 hours at the max (you know, unless you’re a superhuman or a robotic humanoid who needs no sleep but charging maybe 🤔). If you’re lethargic, dull and inactive you’ll be able to utilise only  a small portion of your productive hours. On the other hand if you’re super energetic or chirpy on some day, you may even outdo the healthy amount of working hours (16 -18 hours, maybe even 20 or more in some cases). 

So you see what’s happening here? Apparently, your time has increased. But in actuality it is your energy that has increased and allowed you to do more. My physics practical teacher used to say something like this – things only seem apparent and what you are seeing need not be true. Guess he was right.

Now I could give you a laundry list on how to improve on time manag- ugh! old habits 🙄 – I meant energy management but I’m pretty sure that you already have enough of them. 

Though, what I do want to give you is a heads up. Energy management is beyond sticking to time tables. It’s more about what things deserve your attention and what don’t. You need to be firm as to what occupies your mind. Not all things are worth your attention and you must remember that. The more unworthy things you’ll remove, the more energy you’ll have for things worth it, for the things that matter to you. Here’s one of my favourite quotes by a great author, L. Ron Hubbard, “Man’s worst difficulty is his inability to tell the important from the unimportant.”

P.S. I am absolutely in sync with the idea of time management but i believe it’s name is quite misleading. 

So let’s start calling things and concepts – like time management – for what they really are – to energy management. 

I really appreciate my dad for bringing this in my awareness. He is the one who literally spoon-fed me this and many more, non-conformist concepts so that I could see things for myself, and not for their apparentness or how it has been passed to us through everyone we know.

Why I Like Watermelon Over Muskmelon

Why I Like Watermelon Over Muskmelon

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It’s summer. We are self-quarantined (you better be if possible ‘cause it is the safest thing to do). And our (definitely mine) relief is Food. I felt like adding a lot of Os because I wanted food to be like a word you say with emphasis and happiness. But I dropped it for the sake of simplicity. Yeah, so back to food. 

All the watery summer fruits are such a treat. And to be honest, they are the actual treat. Not junk, not bland but so refreshing, and healthy. What more could you ask for, isn’t it? 

But there’s a confession. I don’t like all of them equally. I really really like watermelon over muskmelon. I know it’s not fair but what can I do? I can’t choose what my taste buds like. 

Watermelon is watery and sweet (mostly) and not hard and but crisp at the same time. You get the idea. Muskmelon, on the other hand, is too soft, rarely sweet and (usually) needs to be peeled.

Oh! By the way, there’s also an out of the basket (because we have fruits here) observation I have. When you slice you need the biggest sharpest knife to slice a watermelon. And for slicing a muskmelon, you could even use a fork I guess. This reminds me of an idiom. It goes something like this, “Whether the melon falls on the knife or the knife falls on the melon, it’s the melon that suffers.

It is the muskmelon that is being talked about because, let alone, accidentally, the watermelon is so hard to cut intentionally.

Muskmelon gets hurt so easily, even if one doesn’t intend to do so. Watermelon on the other hand isn’t hurt, even if one has the intentions to do so.

I believe that in life all of us should be watermelons too. Some of us already are and some need to be (me for example). We need to learn how to not take things to yourself and to not get hurt easily. We need to strengthen our guard, our covering. And I do not mean by strengthening the guard, to be emotionless. That’s not what I’m talking about. The watermelon is hard to cut but so rejuvenating. 

The more we learn not to take things personally, the less emotionally drained we will be.

And I know that it is sometimes easier said than done. Currently I am myself a transitioning watermelon. I know it and I know I have to change it for my own peace of mind. You know it’s okay to be a muskmelon, but you should change if sometimes it feels too much. You’ll know what I am talking about if you feel it. 

You know when you are a muskmelon, when you unintentionally take things to yourself, it will always be you that suffers, like the quote said. No matter whether the person wants to hurt you or not, you will be hurt because of taking it to your heart. Teacher or boss scolds you with the only intention of getting the work done, but what happens is we get hurt. Friends vent out the frustration of something else, and we think it is we who did something wrong. Sometimes, we just need to remember that people aren’t mad at us; they’re probably mad at something that is wrong in their life or occasionally at themselves.

And all the pro watermelons out there, I wish I could be a watermelon too so effortlessly.

So, be a watermelon – cool, colourful, always refreshing people, and rarely getting hurt.

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Moon’s Problems

Moon’s Problems

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I wanted to do something different than writing a blog in first person. Just for a change 🤷‍♀️

So here’s a short story.


Yesterday after crying over a math problem I couldn’t solve, I was standing on my balcony to cool down. As it is, an 8 year old third-grader has so much work to do, like filling up the cooler, folding up the dried clothes and watering the plants. And then on top of that the school just dumps down so much homework on students. They think that we have nothing to do during the holidays besides the homework. Not fair!  

While looking at the neighborhood where I’ve lived for years now, my attention goes to the moon. It was the prettiest moon I had seen this month and possibly the prettiest in this year. This was definitely the moon from which all the “deep” paintings were inspired and it was the shot to show nighttime in serials, mostly vampires if I’m being honest. The perfect full moon hiding behind the black, but not jet-black clouds.

You know when you are yourself in distress, it’s easier to think that life is much simpler for the other person. To think that things are smoother for the other person than you. To think that the grass is greener on the other side. Or, rather think that the sky is clearer above the other person. 

Being in a similar situation, I made an absent minded remark knowing there wasn’t anybody there but me (or at least I thought so). I muttered looking at the moon, “Your life’s so easy. Do nothing but still be admired by thousands. You just have to show up and hide behind the clouds if you wish. Sometimes you don’t even show up. You don’t have to worry about how many marks you will get on a MCQ or why didn’t your classmate invite you to her birthday party or can you fill up a bathtub with ice cream. You have it easy. Just exist and people will write poems comparing pretty people with you and BOOM! You’re a metaphor 🙄”

Mumma calls me and just when I’m about to run back to the kitchen, I hear a soft sigh. A voice came from above me, almost like a whisper. Unable to figure out where the voice was coming from, I started looking here and there. Behind the pot, below the chair, even inside the water hose. The voice spoke up again. “Pss. Pss. Up here. Look up.”

Pretty confused, I looked up at the sky. There it is. The moon. Actually talking, I mean whispering, to me. 

Moon whispers again,”Hey you. Yes you. You think life’s difficult for you only? Everything is easy for me? Let me answer that for you. It’s not. Things are just as difficult for me as they are for you, cause your life is yours and my life is mine. It’s not easy for me to be working during the night shift. I get sleepy too ok? 😴 and it doesn’t end just there. I have duties too. Remember you just studied tides? I’m the one responsible for high tides and low tides. You know how hard it is to make the tides rise? It takes so much energy. And sometimes when I don’t come people don’t care. But once in a year, when I’m late, people, especially ladies make such a fuss. I am so confused. You see all these stars. They are so bright coloured. Pink, blue, yellow, red. Name it and they are in those colours. But look at me. Just boring plain white. That too scarred with so many craters.”

Okay. Woah. I did not see anything like that coming. I mindlessly just grumbled about my own issues. I think it triggered the moon. But I guess it’s ok. I got someone to vent out my problems and moon got someone to let it’s problems out. However, I do see his point.

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 I can see why the moon is – just like me – frustrated. He didn’t complain but I did. Everyone has their problems and at the same time everyone handles them differently. But cribbing about it is not the same as handling it. And thinking that someone’s life is easier than your is definitely not the solution. 

Quickly realising this observation, I whisper back, “Sorry moon. I never knew you had these many responsibilities too. I’ll remember not to whine about my work. And by the way, those women fussing about you coming late are the Indian women on Karva Chauth who are annoyed because they can’t eat until you come. Bye I’ve to go now. Hope to see you tomorrow.”


And with that I left to fill up the cooler and take another look at my math problem.


 Let me know if you like the blogs better or the story. And if you like, I’d do more of the stories.


Karva Chauth – Karva Chauth is a one-day festival celebrated by Hindu women from some regions of India, especially northern India, four days after purnima in the month of Kartika.